It’s not often when I print the words of anyone else on my blog. By its very nature, this blog is supposed to be a reflection of my thoughts, not someone else’s.But every once in a while, someone says something that is best said himself.
Without further adieu, I present to you the words of my high school friend Fred, who unexpectedly swooped into my life last week, bursting with stuff to say about the last several blogs I’ve posted.
I share this with you, dear reader, because his words are going to impact what I do in the near future. And how can I make better sense of myself, if I do not acknowledge that which is influencing me?
No one has ever encouraged me in the way that he has on this particular topic. It's incredibly unique and definitely worth pondering.
Here’s what he wrote:
So, I think you'd be happy if you had a man and a bun in the oven; am I right? And... the man you want must have some PRETTY specific criteria to be considered husband material, right?
well... because Mr. Right has to be SO specific, and it is SO integral to your happiness and future, you need to really, really spend buku time and resources looking under every rock and overturning every leaf.
whatever you are doing to find him, do it TEN TIMES MORE.
You’re building Rome here. its gonna take 10 times more than current efforts (and of course I am arrogantly assuming, what your current efforts are) but I have a hunch they need to be multiplied and then some.
Some girls could pretty much be happy with any "decent" guy, yes... but for you, you need something pretty damn specific. you want Mr. Catholic, Mr. love not lust (Theology of the Body), Mr. good looking, Mr. (I'll go along with what you want but not appear to be a push over in public)….almost a contradiction in terms....
But he's out there.
And it'll take digging.
so, to find that rare gem, without compromising your own beliefs and "virtues," you need nothing short of a metaphorical treasure hunting outfit.
you know... a lot of your friends bring the divine question into it, I notice... but the whole "seek and ye shall find" concept has a key word: "seek,” meaning we are required to do some footwork and spend some effort on our own to find what we're looking for.
Are you aware of the Prayer of Jabez? I say ask for a lot and don't be ashamed of it... just know if you are treasure hunting, like any treasure hunter you need to put TONS of time into the search, tons of resources, dedication, maps, metal detectors, the whole 9.
But despite the gifts you may receive from God to go on the treasure hunt, know that treasure hunters STILL must break their backs in their search.
Also…you already know you have looks going for you (and dont be modest you KNOW how guys look at you) so as far as the superficial stuff, you got it knocked... find a man thats worthy of that appreciation.
so in any case.... when looking for something so specific, the search must be equally intensive.
I think its true that the divine world intervenes and helps us when we ask, but expecting it to come to our door without effort flies in the face of every great or amazing accomplishment made by man. these were all accomplished by gifted men and women, gifts they received from above... but they worked very hard for it... they "sought" and eventually they found.
and I know the old adage of "when you are not looking, love presents itself." true of most people, but your case is different.... you are seeking the albino midget with a wooden leg (just a metaphor) and he's out there... but I think it will take the gifts you were given... using them--- to find him.
I’ve been thinking about your plight on my off time, lol... thats what I put together. makes me sad to see your sad in blogs... I await the day when you are up to your ears in love and a wedding is on its way! I just think it’s an uphill battle... and well the hill is large, so get your best hiking boots out and conquer that bad boy!”
