This blog is for the gentlemen out there. :)Many of you don't realize that the day you choose to initiate contact with a woman says boatloads about who are. I've got a chunk of you figured out before I even answer the phone, accept that friend request, or reply to your first text.
The scenario goes like this: Let's say you meet one of us lovely ladies on the weekend. You enjoy her conversation, find her laughs to be infectious, and eventually work up the courage to get some tidbit of her contact information by the end of the night.
You walk home with a smile, until it dawns on you that you must be clever and perfectly-timed with your first contact. If you do it too soon, she's gonna think you're desperate. If you wait too long, you might lose your chance (or she might forget about you altogether).
So you decide to go middle-of-the-road.
But aren't there several days in a week that one could consider middle-of-the-road? Indeed, the situation you find yourself in is a perplexing one. On which day should you contact her?
You could call one of your buddies and get his advice, but you absolutely won't do that. This isn't middle school, after all. You're ready to make your own decision. But, once you've made your day-of-the-week choice, what will that inadvertently reveal about you?
Well, you are moments away from finding out!
I think my experience definitely qualifies me to make the following conclusions. Bear in mind that whether you meet her on a Friday or Saturday night is irrelevant. The descriptions below will remain accurate. However, if you meet her on another day of the week, you'll have to email me for specifics because that is a different scenario altogether.
Here's what the data says:
Sunday
If you call her on Sunday, you risk two possible extremes. You will either appear desperate or on top of your game. A desperate man wastes no time in contacting her because communicating with her is all he can ever think about since they met. But, likewise, a suave man who's used to meeting and managing new ladies in his life, might call right away simply because (1) he's uber-confident, and (2) he knows that if he doesn't get you figured out quickly, he's going to get "backed up" with girls to figure out, since the likelihood of him meeting another girl soon is quite probable.
Monday
Not as prone to polar opposites as Sunday, the Monday night contact is slightly better, but still risks complete opposite interpretations. The added feature to a Monday night contact, however, is that your career enters itself into the equation. If you're able to leisurely contact a girl on a Monday night, does that mean you haven't got a busy lifestyle? Guys with busy lives either crash on Monday nights (from a fun-filled weekend and hard day at work) or work their little hearts out and do overtime (because the week has a long to-do list).
Tuesday
Contacting her this night is ideal. You're not desperate and you have a life, and that's why you didn't do it sooner. But a contact on this night shows you're definitely interested, so only do it if you don't mind her knowing. A man who reaches out on a Tuesday night has aimed to miss the Wednesday Night Cut-Off, which I shall talk about in the next paragraph. His intentions are clear.
Wednesday
This night is a critical evening. If you don't contact her by tonight, don't expect to get the chance to see her on the weekend. You see, a social girl firms up her weekend plans--at the very latest--on Wednesday night. This is called the Wednesday Night Cut-Off. Anything past that will rarely have the chance to fit in.
Thursday
When you reach out this late in the week, she knows you're uncertain about her. If she accepts your offer to hang out on the weekend on this night, then you can be assured of either two things: (1) she's definitely interested because she's secretly willing to rearrange her weekend plans in order to make time for you, or (2) she's got no life and didn't have anything scheduled anyhow. On the other hand, if she doesn't accept, then you've got a tough little cookie on your hands. The situation is one of the following two things: either (1) she was never interested in you in the first place or (2) she was interested but now questions whether or not you are. The latter manifests itself with her saying something like, "No, I've got plans already" in the hopes that you will try harder and contact her sooner regarding next weekend.
Friday
This, dear gentleman, is a booty call. There's no way around it. It is what it is. But if that's all you want, then call her on Friday -- and at least she'll know there's certainly nothing romantic between you two. But a girl who accepts an invitation on this night (whether for Friday or Saturday night) is utterly lame, without any self-esteem, and will ultimately be just as disrespectful of you as you are of her.
Remember, please, that these rules apply only to NEW pairs of people who are just beginning to communicate. A couple that's been together for a while could certainly not firm up their weekend plans until the last minute, and there is nothing wrong with that because it is delightfully understood between them that they will automatically be spending time together. So, ladies, a Friday night call from your steady boyfriend is perfectly acceptable. :)
There you have it, fellas. Now you know. :)
